The Loneliness Monster

Have you been harassed by the loneliness monster?

Join the fight!

The whole point of being apart of the friendship club is to defeat the loneliness monster. It's the force that makes us feel lonely, while also pressuring us to do nothing about our loneliness, and even worse it will taunt us once we're all alone. Whether the loneliness monster is an actual entity or something we personify doesn't matter because the fact remains that it's there. Good news reader, you're not alone.

My name is matt and I learned the hard way that the reason I had no friends was because I looked down at everyone around me. The loneliness monster tricked me into thinking I'm better than everyone and no one was good enough to be my friend. Let me tell you something dear reader, it's a lie. It's a trap. If you're anything like me, there's a force within you that wants to get you alone and then keep you there forever.

In order to fight this beast I had to learn how to like people again. I had to try really hard to look for things I enjoyed about other people rather than acting as if they have nothing to offer me and no way to connect with me. I was convinced by the loneliness monster that other people would never understand me and therefore I stopped trying to make friends and I ended up all alone.

Little did I know, I was believing a lie. A voice was telling me everything wrong about the other people around me and in order for me to find true happiness, joy, and serenity in friendship, I had to learn how to make the loneliness monster shut up. Unfortunately it's not that easy. If it was, we wouldn't call it a monster. 

This force doesn't leave us just because we suddenly recognize its existence. This force won't leave just  because you tell it to go away either. It's a monster! It can't be killed by yourself. The only way to deal with this blaster is to make a friend who listens to you and genuinely likes you. The loneliness monster only leaves when we connect with other people and feel understood by them.

We can't just stand next to other people or get involved in casual chatter, we have to actually get to know each other and appreciate each other in order to cut this monster's head right off. And unfortunately the beast comes back again and again, so long as we don't have a daily maintenance to deal with it.

Here's where things get really tricky, the loneliness monster is incredibly intelligent. It's manipulative. It waits for you to think it's gone and then strikes again! It never goes away. In fact, it watches you socialize with others and takes notes in the background on how it will seperate you from them. Then when you're not paying attention the loneliness monster will trickle thoughts through your mind that are soft and subtle about what's wrong with your friends, what's wrong with your family, and what's wrong with your society.

It slowly gets you right back into negative BORING thinking that is NO FUN at all. That's why I started this friendship club because I wanted to start haviung fun again. I wanted to stop being so negative and focusing on how everyone else sucks and start enjoying other people for what they're good at. 

Well it takes time and practice. I found out that I couldn't just decide "Hey! I won't feel lonely anymore!" Nope. That didn't work for me. If it does for you, then by golly I'm jealous. In my experience, fighting the loneliness monster took an incredible amount of work on changing my behavior and bad habits. I had to relearn how to socialize and approach people.

I had to change the way I thought when meeting new people. I had to change the way I reflected about certain past events in my life that haunted me and find a new way to analyze myself and others. It took me a while to notice that my judements towards other people's flaws was the reason I had no friends and therefore became so lonely.

As it turns out, they weren't mistreating me as much as I thought, but rather I was listening to a voice in my head that convinced me "other people suck." Listen! No, they don't. Other people do NOT suck. That's the beast right there in it's full glory, "other people suck, I want nothing to do with them." Don't give into that dark manipulative voice, that's the loneliness monster straight up lying to you.

Instead give my club a chance to befriend you. We will cheer you on as you step out of the shadows and into the light of being around other people. This brings about a warm lovely sensation because it just feels good to be seen, to be heard, and to know that you're not alone.

Ah, so you've made it this far down the page eh? Click here to read about the loneliness monster's historical record and see how far this rabbit hole goes. ***COMING SOON***